Kellie and I actually met through our husbands - Kellie's husband, Lance, just graduated from SMU law and has been such a great mentor to Chris, who is about to begin his last year. Kellie and Lance are so much fun to be around. They are genuinely excited about life, and love to live it to the fullest. They will be moving to Vegas this August, and while they are going to do great things, but I'm going to be selfishly awaiting the day they come back to Texas!
Kellie is the most adorable southern belle I've ever met – she is genuine, kind, and has such great advice to give. I'm so thankful to call her my friend. She and Lance have such a unique and powerful story, and I'm honored to share it with you today...
Tell us about yourself! Hi! I’m Kellie Wyatt, and I live in Dallas, Texas! My dad was in the air force growing up, so we moved around some before settling in Ft. Worth when I was 8 years old, but Texas has always been home. I went to school at Baylor University (sic ‘em!) and married my sweet husband, Lance, right after graduation. I currently work as the marketing communications manager for Echo Transportation. Lance just finished law school at SMU, so while he is away studying for the bar, you can find me running at White Rock Lake, or at the dog park with my “fur baby”, Piper. Lance is taking the bar exam in just a few weeks, and after that we will be moving to Las Vegas for two years while he clerks for a Federal judge. While we aren’t thrilled to be leaving Texas and moving to the desert, we know that Lord has big things in store for us and we are excited to take this step of faith and head west!!
What inspires you? I get inspired when I see people rise from difficult situations, or when I see people who want to run into difficult situations, often when everyone else would like to run away. In college I worked in foster care, and still have a huge heart for that ministry. I’ve always loved what Matthew 25:40 says, “When you did it for the least of these, you were doing it for me.” I do not like to see people hurting, and I really feel like the Lord has given me a desire to enter in to these challenging places to be the hands and feet of Jesus.
I’m also really fortunate to come from a strong, hard working family, so I often find inspiration just by watching them. I realize how much time and effort they’ve put into raising me and praying for me. Sometimes it’s inspiring just to think about how much you are loved!!
What are your gifts and talents? I like to bring harmony to situations. Whether it’s at work or with family or whatever it may be, I am a good listener and I’m able to read between the lines to get to the heart of the issue. Because of that, I try and mediate situations to bring unity and accord to whatever setting I may be in. I also really value being fair, which I think helps when I’m trying to mediate different situations because I can (usually) see where each person is coming from. Discipline comes pretty easily for me, or at least I see the value in it-I definitely still have to work for it sometimes! I am also an encourager by nature, and I try to be thoughtful. I think it’s important to be faithful in the little things like this as its often preparing us for something much bigger!
How do you use your gifts to serve others? I like to be helpful, and I pray often that I will be a blessing to those around me. Sometimes that may be as simple as making my coworkers laugh when they’re having a hard day, or encouraging someone that the project they’re working on is looking really nice. Often the best way I know to help people is simply to listen and affirm what they’re telling me, even if I don’t have a perfect solution to their problem.
What would you do if you had nothing holding you back from your dreams? As I mentioned above, I worked in foster care some while I was in college and really loved getting to be an advocate for those kids. I pray that one day the Lord would lead me back into that setting, but even if he doesn’t I know I made a big difference for the time that I was there. I think just being an advocate is a dream of mine-it might be for children in foster care or really anyone we would consider “the least of these”. I want to love like Jesus did and I really want people to see the evidence of him in my life. I think that looks like being selfless and serving others, and so even though it’s hard to do this, I try and keep that at the forefront of my mind.
Tell us about a season of suffering that lead to good things in your life. “God is most glorified in us when we are most satisfied in him, in loss, not prosperity”-John Piper. After being married for 10 months, my mother in law, Lance’s mom, Marcy, committed suicide following a long battle with mental illness. I was shocked, angry, really upset, and mostly just sad for a very long time following her death. I don’t know that you’re ever prepared to deal with something like that, but as a 23-year-old newlywed I can say I was especially not. My heart was broken, for my own loss and for my husband’s loss, and I felt really helpless and crushed at the beginning of this season. Prior to this, my life had been pretty easy, for lack of a better term. There had been seasons that were difficult like going to college or looking for a job, but none of that felt messy-this was different. However, and this was not my own doing at all, but right after she passed away, not only did the peace of God fill my heart and grant me the strength to walk through this trial, but I was also overwhelmed with gratitude that the Lord felt Lance and I were worthy to endure such a trial. I realize that might sound extremely strange and probably weird, but I had been praising God for all of the good things for 23 years and declaring his faithfulness in those good seasons, and now I was able to praise his name and declare that he is still faithful in the incredibly difficult seasons as well. I can truly say that in those moments of extreme weakness and when our humanity is fully exposed, the strength of the Lord is made manifest and shown so clearly. Because of this trial I have learned SO much more about the character of God and what it really looks like to trust in him alone. Psalm 62:2 says “He alone is my rock and my salvation, he is my fortress, I will not be shaken.” I had known this verse for years, memorized it, had it written down-but this was my chance to really stand in it. I. Will. Not. Be. Shaken. I will not. By the grace of God I knew we would make it through this. There were times when the enemy would try and tell me that from this moment on, everything in life would be bittersweet, tainted with the thought that Marcy’s death would ruin every major life experience for me. Thankfully the Lord is so good to bring light to dark lies. I remember my mom made a comment once that darkness can never put out light...how good is that?! Even the smallest, faintest light cannot be put out by darkness-it’s always what the name says it is-light! I am called to be obedient and to walk in TRUTH. Exodus 14:14 says that the Lord will fight for us, and I can absolutely tell you that he does. Hebrews 7:23 talks about Jesus living to make intercession for us, Romans 8:26 furthermore declares that Holy Spirit helps us in our weakness by interceding on our behalf when we don’t even have the words to say or the prayers to pray. I can’t tell you how many times I had to stand in faith on these verses, on the word of God, because my flesh was too weak and I didn’t even have the words to say to form the prayers that I desperately needed to pray. Praise the Lord that he is SO faithful and he fulfills his promises to us (Luke 1:45). I am forever changed because of this, but can I tell you that I am thankful for that? I miss Marcy so much, and I will miss her until I see her again in Heaven, but the Lord has made beauty from ashes out of this situation. What the enemy destined for destruction the Lord has used for his good and his glory. 2 Corinthians 4:16-18 says “So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day. For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison, as we look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen. For the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal.” This verse has reshaped my entire life. Losing Marcy was devastating and literally crushed us-but when your mind is set on eternity and all that that encompasses, then and only then can we view this as light and fleeting. Praise the Lord that he is SO faithful. When you have hit your rock bottom and you begin to think that you cannot go on, he WILL fight for you, and he WILL carry you through. He is just so good. My hope is truly, truly, in him alone.
Share your proudest moment. My proudest moment is that, by the grace of God, I am walking through this season right now. I once heard a pastor say that the amount of growth you’ll see in your life is directly proportionate to the amount of pruning you’re willing to allow. Pruning hurts. It involves cutting off the dead leaves or bad parts of plants, but out of those places new flowers can grow. It’s a scary prayer to pray, but I had been praying for a long time that the Lord would make his dreams my dreams, and his goals my goals. In order for that to happen, he needed to cut off the dead parts of me or the parts of me that were too full of the flesh and holding me back, to grow me into something better. It has hurt, it has been messy, and I don’t always have a good attitude about it, but I know he only does it because he cares about me and wants to use me for his glory.
I feel my purpose in life is to... be a blessing to those around me by walking in truth and bringing glory to God by always saying YES to Him!
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